Poliamor Chat

There are rooms where you need to explain everything before starting. This isn't one of them. If you're connecting from your mobile phone at the third line of Madrid's train station, you probably know exactly what you're looking for. And you've likely been in places like this before, even if it was never official. Like Ana, who first connected from her couch in Barcelona because her boyfriend had talked about polyamory with her on a night when her grandmother wasn't paying attention. She came back a week later because the answer to a question she had arrived in two minutes.

Conversations here revolve around specific issues, such as who to call for a weekend trip to Berlin, whether the couple's budget for a weekend trip to Berlin should include or not include a budget for the other person's hotel. Questions about how to organize the budget for a weekend trip, how to deal with the fact that someone in the group has gotten a new partner without telling the others, or if someone who has been in a monogamous relationship for ten years should change their habits so someone else feels comfortable. There are passionate debates at 10 PM when most chatters are already at home, like the battle for possession of the couch or the strategy to keep an ex-partner from finding out the new partner's name. There are also moments of laughter when someone complains that their partner won't stop talking about work and is stealing their life.

There's something that only regulars seem to understand. The colloquialisms, references to past events like when ChatZona's room celebrated its 15th anniversary, or the rivalry with the regulars of the Love and Sex room, who claim that their users are more aware of the complexity of relationships. There's also an unofficial schedule: 10 PM, when most people have had coffee and the older chatters are still not in bed. At that time, the room is a place for reflection on the things that happened that night and what needs to be done to not make your partner feel uncomfortable.

If you connect, you don't need to register or choose a nickname. It would be weird if nobody responded to you within the first two minutes. ChatZona has been working with real IRC since 2007, so it's likely that others know how to navigate the rooms. And if they don't, there's always someone willing to help. During peak hours, it's common to hear laughter and talk about personal experiences for the first time in a chat room. That's why it's normal for you to be here within two minutes.